Respect Conflated With Fear

The following is an excerpt from a recent conversation about saying “Good Morning” which expanded to some other ish about rearing and parenting. 
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I firmly believe we’ve taken the word “respect” and culturally conflated it with fear. IMO, respect is earned and respect isn’t rooted in fear. I think my mom feels the same way. I wasn’t scared of my mom. She don’t play public embarrassment. Not at all. She doesnt play disrespect. As a result, neither do I. I feel like a lot of what has been termed respect is kids who act one way in front their parents and another way in their absence. Lots of my folk began relationships with sneakiness because of how respect was framed for them. I didn’t. I did what I did. She knew it. My respect is rooted in seeing her live a noble and hard working life. Not fear based. While my mother is VERY southern, in many ways, she was progressive even back then. there are lots of rules she broke which often makes people think she wasn’t a good mom. I wasn’t raised on yes ma’am/no ma’am. Actually my mom hates being called ma’am. She is quick to say “please don’t ma’am me.”. She’s also not big on please and thank you. Its all in HOW you ask. I wasn’t really raised on good morning. You just kinda start talking. I didn’t get spanked. Just long ass punishments. I mean month plus. I was allowed around adults and never told by my mother to get out or phrases like “a child’s place”. I was always allowed to ask why. And 90% of the time I got a legit answer. I was allowed to occupy a lot of space in my home growing up. Lol. Some of my friends say if they were me, they would have no teeth given some of the stuff I say to my mama. Not disrespectful, per se. But definitely toeing some lines. All of those experiences result in the very opinionated, witty, and sarcastic person I am today. 
—The Ignant Intellectual

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The Co-Opting of Term “Institutionalized” by the Justice Institution

“I find it disheartening that the term institutionalized has been negatively co-opted by the justice institution, when there are a plethora of other institutions that result in institutionalized mindsets. I assert that, fundamentally, there is no difference between someone who is institutionalized as a prisoner and someone who is institutionalized as a career academic when discussing many aspects of ‘doing’. It’s just that one is valued and the other demonized. But both people are conditioned to maneuvering those worlds of distinct systems…specific institutions with their own rules and ways of life. Both require uncomfortable negotiations for those inside. Both often force you to sacrifice certain aspects of quality of life. Both require you to assume their norms and their standards as your own in many ways. Both are reflected in a group think with commonalities in the mindsets of those who occupy those spaces.”
–The Ignant Intellectual

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I have a question. Is it really too much to ask for somebody on the prosecution team to acknowledge the idea the perhaps Zimmerman is a product of a racist, patriarchal, hegemonic, and sexist society?!? That he is a product of the intersections of those constructs. Is bringing up the underlying shyt too far fetched for this reality?! Is it possible to bring up that Zimmerman possibly saw Trayvon and all his conditioning converged on that very moment, resulting in a murder. Do the contributory factors not matter here? Cause this ill-will, spite, bad feelings shyt is not getting to the heart of the matter.‎#IMeanLetsBeGrownHere

—The Ignant Intellectual

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Dear Dr. Bao

Dear Dr. Bao,

While it is true that you are long winded and asked for the time, you would prolly tell me how to build a clock, one would be hard pressed to deny that you seem to understand the intersectionalities of this trial. You appear to understand exactly what these attorneys are attempting to do and is determined to use your clout to counter those attempts. I deeply value your committment to “explain it to the jury”. You are my new bestie. I love privilege used for good. ‎#TeamDrBao #ZimmermanTrial

Sincerely,

The Ignant Intellectual

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Try a Little Tenderness

Y’all ever apologized to somebody and their response was as if they didn’t even hear your “I apologize”?? I mean they came at you like you said “phuk your feelings”. And it wasn’t until you said “Did you hear what I just said? I said that I apologize”. And it shook them and they didn’t know what to say or how to receive it. We are so wired for aggression and always in our emotional defensive stances that we often don’t hear “I am sorry.” #TryALittleTenderness

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Dear George Zimmerman Defense Team

Dear George Zimmerman Defense Team,

Javaris Fulton is a senior in college with a major in Information Technology. He is well spoken. He appears to be in his right mind. He is everything you needed him not to be as a black man. Sybrina Fulton has worked for Dade county for over 20 years, and has a bachelor’s degree in English, with a minor in Communications. She began at Grambling State University and graduated from a university in Florida. She is everything you needed her not to be as a black mother. So now that these people have completely phuked up your plan of painting them as shiftless derelicts, generational welfare recipients, loud and common negroes, what is your new plan?

Sincerely,
We Ain’t All The Same

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sonofbaldwin:

Jamilah King put me on to this amazing video by Sowjanya Kudva “in which LGBT folks talk about their definitions of immigration, borders, and citizenship.”

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Here’s why a Black man could never stalk and murder a white boy without immediate arrest and conviction:

Blackness is criminalized in this country. That’s why Trayvon Martin’s body was drug- and alcohol-tested (and the toxicology results were publicly released), but George Zimmerman wasn’t. That’s why Trayvon Martin’s school records, text messages, and social media postings were so heavily scrutinized, but George Zimmerman’s criminal record was largely swept under the rug. That’s why George Zimmerman’s trial is repeatedly being called the Trayvon Martin trial, despite the fact that Trayvon Martin has gone on to be with the ancestors and George Zimmerman is the one sitting in court. That’s why when white males (or males who benefit from white privilege) commit heinous crimes, their narrative is always explained under the guise of mental health issues, whereas Black males (both perpetrators and victims of crime) have any past or present criminal activity discussed at length by the media. 

Although George Zimmerman is on trial for second-degree murder, Trayvon Martin is on trial for whether or not he deserved to be murdered.

-El Hatch

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"Please allow me to shift the lens. Everyone has a gender identity. Some folk’s gender is congruent with social norms & some are incongruent. Everyone has a sexuality. Be ye not confused. Hetero is a sexuality. Just like this political agenda around marriage equality doesn’t benefit all gay folk, it also doesn’t benefit all straight folk."
—The Ignant Intellectual

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The Quote that May End the Trayvon Trial - Esquire

Zimmerman’s stereotypical views of black folk as being responsible for so much of what’s wrong in the world is reflective of a larger shared sentiment among brown and non-brown folk alike. He shot “black folk”, not one black person who he thought was bad. He shot someone who in his mind represented “all”. Words like “they” are sweeping in generalization.
—Zerandrian S. Morris

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